Tips for Marriage

If you think communication in marriage would be vital to it’s success you would be right. If there’s lack of communication it will be no time before one spouse or the other is unhappy. No one gets married to be unhappy, your spouse is supposed to bring happiness into the relationship, not the opposite. Naturally, no one is happy 100 percent of the time and there will be some bad days, however, the good should outweigh the bad. If not, then possibly communication is lacking in the relationship and it’s best to not overlook this, but take action immediately to repair it.

Aha, but how do you repair it? I’m so glad you ask. To communicate effectively you must be willing to LISTEN. Yes, you’ve heard it a million times, but do you do it? Furthermore, do you listen attentively? Are you really paying attention and do you really care? If not the other person will sense this and may not be willing to share their feelings and shut down.  As a result,  there’s no communication in the marriage once one of you has detached themselves and for marriage to work it has to be a two way street.

Here’s another communication tip: be willing to compromise. This one can be difficult if you’re used to having your way or if you’re stubborn. You have to be able to put your feelings aside at times and open your mind to the possibility that they may be, don’t feint, RIGHT! You may not want to do this, it may not be easy, but who said marriage was easy. Maintaining a healthy marriage relationship is work! Of course, if you’ve been married for any length of time or multiple times then you already know this. And if anyone has told you otherwise, they lied.

Which brings us to another communication issue, the opposite of lying; honesty. If you’re not honest in your communication and are just saying what the other person wants to hear or pretending to pay attention you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. Dishonesty has no place in a healthy relationship; it won’t work. More than likely if you’re not truthful it will be brought to life in the form of anger, resentment, or perhaps depression; nothing good can come from it. It’s better to get everything out in the open and deal with it like mature adults.

As you can see good communication in marriage is vital and will take a little work from both husband and wife. If you’re listening, “actively”  willing to compromise, “even when it’s hard” and being honest, you’re off to a great start. There’s nothing like a great beginning, once you have basic knowledge of what it takes and implement those things on a daily basis your marriage will be a huge success.