Tips for Marriage

Many marriages fail due to unrealistic expectations they seem to think when they get married that their spouse is supposed to make them happy and now everything is going to be great! What a disappointment it is to find out that this is not the case. Then, naturally, they go about trying to find something else to make them happy.

Herein lies the problem, since they typically do things that are not good such as adultery, pornography, gambling or other forms of addiction they make the situation worse.

The way to fix it is to work on yourself and look within not to outside temporary foolishness that will satisfy for a short time. However, most people love to throw the blame, so they won’t admit that they have a problem and the cycle continues.

After all, if you admit that you have issues then there is no escape route and your expectations in the marriage have now fallen back on you. Now, it’s all about what you, not what THEY are or aren’t doing, which means YOU have to change.

Most people don’t like change unless it’s someone else doing the changing. In fact, many times they get married with the goal in mind of changing the other person.

They think crazy stuff like when we get married I will change them into the way I want them! I hate to bust anyone’s bubble, but this is not what will happen. So, if you’re  thinking along these lines don’t get married, at least not any time soon.

Marriage is all about completing one another not changing one another. The focus needs to be on what you can do to make the relationship better not what they need to do.

Whether you’re married or engaged think long and hard about your expectations of marriage and be realistic as to whether you’re ready to accept this person as they are and if you’re ready to commit and not look for a way out when the going gets tough.