Tips for Marriage

What about age in a May December relationship?  This could be older man younger woman or vice versa. Back in the day it was looked down upon, but not so today. Now we live in a more liberal society where just about anything goes. Can society make a difference in a relationship that has a significant age difference?

I believe society can make a difference because people want to be accepted. They don’t really want to be outcasts or have fingers pointed at them. When society is more accepting it gives them one less battle to fight, which should help and not hurt.

If society is against you then there are all kinds of battles to fight and this is on a daily basis. Wherever you go you will have to deal with judgmental and critical people.

Once society is accepting then the battles are usually about maturity. After all, it’s not really about the age number it’s about maturity level.

Marriage in and of itself is hard, at least if you want it to be a successful one. By this meaning both people are happy and their marriage stands the test of time. Maturity level no matter what the age will be a factor in making a marriage a good one.

If you are married to someone way older or younger or are considering it, then you need to be realistic about the maturity level of your partner. Don’t just go by how they look or make you feel. At the very least go for a long engagement to test it out.

Many years ago I had relationships with men way younger and some way older as we’re talking about here. When I was 16 I dated a man who was in his 40’s then when I was 48 I dated a guy 25. So, I have lived it and thank God did not marry either one of them.

As I look back on it now it would never have worked long term. Primarily due to maturity level and totally different interests and goals in life. It was fun at the time, but more of an adventure or something new to try. I didn’t take it serious.

Above all be realistic and analyze the relationship. Even if you’re married it can end in divorce if both of you don’t take your marriage seriously.

On the other hand, no matter what anyone thinks or how much opposition there is, a May December relationship can work if both people are mature and willing.